What comes up for your partner if you start changing? Are they now faced with their own issues around their health? Does for them, having a partner, also unhealthy and in pain, provide them with some justification for not taking responsibility for some aspects of their health? (Some people do not know who they would be without their illness/diagnosis or pain.) Are they worried that you would leave them or the relationship dynamics will change if you reach your weight and aesthetic goals? Generally, behaviors serve the purpose of keeping the individual safe. In this case, behaviors keep identity safe, relationships safe and the familiar safe…
Read MoreThis is your invitation to stop handing over your power to someone else. It is your invitation to sit in some discomfort while they surf their discomfort. Setting boundaries is an art. And you won’t get it “right” the first time. Stay curious and keep communication open. Setting boundaries is also like working out. You will have the discomfort of being sore after the first few workouts, but then it gets easier. Same with boundaries. You will become more comfortable at letting people down, not being accommodating and disappointing people.
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